|"Dolly, you need to spend a few minutes thinking about what you did wrong. I don't want to see you coloring your body with marker again...."|
|There are sweat pants to match....maybe I'll get those done by next Christmas?:)|
"The week after Hope died, I was sitting on the couch reading a book by a man who had lost a child. He wrote, "There's only one thing I've found that helps with the pain." You would have thought I was in the desert and he was telling me where to find water. I wanted to skip ahead. I wanted to know. What is it that will soothe this enormous ache inside me? Then I read it: "serving others." Honestly, I felt disappointed. That's it? I thought. A part of me said he was just a preacher who was giving me the party line. But I also thought that someone who has hurt like he had hurt would not lie to me about where to find comfort. And so even though I didn't really believe him, I decided to put what he said to the test. I was desperate." Nancy Guthrie
And so Nancy did put it to the test. She helped a widow move into a new home - and her focus moved from her own pain to someone else's. She said that in her own experience - it is the reaching out to others in the midst of our own pain, uniquely because of our pain that is the secret to lightening our unbearable load. I feel like maybe I should add a disclaimer. Grieving people need to be given ALOT of GRACE. As a people pleaser, and as a firstborn who wants to do everything right - even grieve properly, I can easily succumb to false guilt that I am not doing this right or doing enough for others. But there is something in this story that rings so TRUE. In fact, I know this to be true in my own life. What about you? Has this also been your experience?